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Start of Arrangements

  • Writer: sologubj9
    sologubj9
  • Aug 9, 2023
  • 2 min read

Today was a tough but fruitful day. Fortunately, my in-laws Jim and Elaine Benner made it to town to go to the Mortuary with me to work thru the start of planning. Our special friend Margot Centanni was going to go with me if they could not make it (Thank you Margot).


We picked out an Urn that we feel that Jennifer would have liked and that will fit in the purse that she wants to be buried in.


Elaine, Jim, and I also got to see her one last time, which was very special/important for me, and I know will have made Jennifer very happy that they could see her one last time. I just wish all of our family could have gotten that opportunity but unfortunately that just was not possible.


Those of you who knew Jennifer well know that she was a strong yellow on the Birkman chart. She was a team builder, planner and a list builder, as such, we had been working down the list of things, she felt we needed to get covered before she left. One thing on that list was writing her obituary. Jennifer wrote her own obituary. The only thing she left to me was to fill in the family members. She had written everything else. It is now posted on the mortuary website in the link below.



Jennifer in her usual humble way did not espouse on all of her accomplishments and strengths, it is pretty straight forward. I honored her wishes by not adding any additional details or flowery words. I could write a book on that.


I still have a couple of things to firm up so I can't share all of the arrangement details just yet. We will have a small memorial service here in Mesquite and then will have a full memorial service and internment in Butte. Will post the details as soon as I have them.


Thank you to all who have reached out to me and that have checked on me. I am hanging in there and like the Willie Nelson song "Something You Get Through" our good friend Eddie Hill sang and posted on his Facebook account. I will not get over this, but I will get through it. Thanks Eddie, that was special and resonated with me.

 
 
 

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9 Comments

jkguthrie85
Aug 10, 2023

Joe, Words cannot express the sadness we feel of hearing of Jennifer’s passing. You and your families are in our thoughts and prayers as you grieve your loss. We will always cherish the great memories of our times together with Jennifer and you, both at work and away from work. Gods blessings to you and your families. 🙏❤️ Jerry & Kathy

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Aug 10, 2023

Dear Joe , Our thoughts and prayers are with you. We are praying that God will hold ,carry and comfort you thru this time of hurt and sorrow. Our condolences to you and your family. Mark & Merri Galetti


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Aug 10, 2023

Oh Joe we are so very sorry. Please know our love, thoughts and prayers are with you and the family and our dear Jennifer. Barb and Dave

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Aug 10, 2023

So very glad I got to know Jennifer in this last year. She was an amazing lady and I am sorry you lost your beautiful soul mate. Prayers for your comfort at this very sad time. See you when I get back in town. Darlene

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Aug 10, 2023

Joe, your Rotary friends (family) are here when you are ready. We are sending prayers for your journey winding thru the heartache. God Speed

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