Grieving

One thing I have come to realize is that everyone grieves the loss of loved ones in their own way. In my opinion there is no right or wrong in this, you just need to do what gets you through it. Like I have said before, you never get over it, but you get through it.

I just read a article on the internet about a woman that had one of her husband’s tattoos preserved and framed. I have to admit I was at first a little taken aback at this idea, but then I thought well if it helps her deal with his loss more power to her. I guess it’s not all that different than having a wedding dress turned into Teddy bears. Just maybe a little more morbid.

The tattoo was a Pittsburgh Steeler related tattoo. Apparently the gentleman had a lot of tattoos but this one was his first and favorite. It has helped both the wife and his kids deal with his loss. So again more power to them.

I have also seen where some people have taken their loved ones ashes and had them incorporated or made into jewelry. While Jennifer loved jewelry I don’t think she would have been real thrilled to become jewelry. Again if it helps a person cope with the loss more power to them.

Yesterday, I did stop by the cemetery to wish Jennifer a happy anniversary before I headed out to play golf. I am sure she probably said it was the least I could do. Kind of like the old joke about the golfer who stopped playing and doffed his hat as a funeral possession went by. His playing partners complemented him for his kindness. He said it was the least he could do since they were married for 50 years.

Anyway it was a very nice round at one of my favorite courses (The Old Works) and helped me get through the day. I greatly appreciated my cousin Pat Ryan joining me for this round. Pat has had his own fair of grief in his lifetime. Pat’s Dad passed when Pat was a young man. The anniversary of his Dads passing is coming up in a couple of days. It has been I believe Pat said 42 years. Hard to fathom.

Well enough for today.